Okay, if you are here to link up your stories, let's review our progress so far.
- We found the theme (or themes) that seems central or recurs often in our stories.
- We discovered which other genre's characteristics our story shares.
- We identified the places that our shorter stories should fill on a plot line of our larger story's genre.
- The change in your character is generally constrained by the timeline of the literal story, so who you become in your memoir may not be who you are now (although there are ways around this, so don't worry).
- The change in your character does not need to be monumental. It may simply be the loss of naivete.
- The change in your character may merely be the loss and regaining of peace during and after a crisis. It may be a passing, and not a permanent, change.
In my case, my change is one of becoming. I was a non-mother. Then I become a mother. Then I become a better, but still not great, mother. Then I give up becoming a great mother. Then I become more of the mother I want to be.
These changes don't follow plotlines, so they are a little difficult to track. Think hard about it for a while. Try to write it out in sentences as I did above. Next, try to flesh out each of the sentences with details that hint at the scenes that each change might correlate to.
- I was a non-mother: wanting children, getting pregnant, getting pregnant again.
- Then I become a mother: childbirth (surprise!), feelings of failure, learning about that child, childbirth again (surprise!), every child is different
- Then I become a better, but still not great, mother: what works, what doesn't, injuries, anger, swearing child at the shoes.
- Then I give up becoming a great mother: recognizing failure (oh, boy! I will need work here! These are hard to write--even hard to think about!), some things can't be fixed
- Then I become more of the mother I want to be: becoming more authentic, really listening